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“Every Single Man’s Battle” Has The Best Of Intentions

Every Single Man's Battle

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About a year ago, I read “Every Man’s Battle” by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker with Mike Yorkey. I read the book with six other guys in a single men’s small group through my church. The overall message was much appreciated, but we found out the book was geared more toward married men. When I found out about “Every Single Man’s Battle” (by the same authors) I was very excited, that was until I actually read the book. To my dismay, I was disappointed for a few reasons.

  1. “Every Single Man’s Battle” constantly refers to “Every Man’s Battle.” What gets me is there wasn’t a whole lot of information from that book that was geared toward single men. They should have just taken what little information that was for single men in “Every Man’s Battle” and just put the information in “Every Single Man’s Battle” instead of saying “read chapters 1-5 of Every Man’s Battle.” It’s like the sole purpose they did this was to sell more books and I have a big problem with that.
  2. The author’s writing style was a little bothersome as well. Everything was “you need to do…” or “you should…” which comes across as if the authors were not single men, but married men who are not currently experiencing the whole issues trying to be a sexually pure single adult male. I would have liked it a lot more if the authors changed the wording to “we as single Christian men should…” or “we should…” that way it doesn’t come across like the authors have no idea what single men are going through or like they don’t sympathize for them.
  3. This book is better suited as a small group study curriculum, otherwise it is a very difficult read.

The message of the book is a good one that is definitely needed for all single Christian men and I found several take away items including:

  • “Actually, sexual impurity is a series of bad decisions on our part – as a result of immature character – and deliverance won’t deliver you into instant maturity. Character work needs to be done.”
  • Our sexuality is not just about obeying God’s commands but also a way to honor our relationship with Him.
  • “When you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” – 1 Corinthians 10:13
  • “Being about our Father’s business is our rite of passage into manhood.”
  • Single men should not live alone, but have at least one male roommate to help provide accountability in the area of sexual temptation.

I definitely recommend this book (with the above disclaimers) and even though it is a challenge at times to abide by this, the long term rewards are well worth it.

  1. August 17, 2011 at 8:09 am

    Hello Scott, the battle for one man, single or married, is not easy…
    Best regards from your friend from Brazil!
    Jorge Henrique

    • August 18, 2011 at 11:51 am

      Thank you so much for subscribing to my posts Jorge! I miss all of my friends in Londrina and hope to come back for a visit soon.

  2. August 17, 2011 at 2:56 pm

    These are good lessons for married men as well!

    • August 18, 2011 at 11:52 am

      Thank you for reading and commenting on my post!

  3. August 17, 2011 at 11:22 pm

    So – would you recommend that if I recommended this to my small group that I should just stick with the original?

    • August 18, 2011 at 11:50 am

      Chris, my suggestion would be for the group leader to get “Every Man’s Battle” and summarize the necessary information to the rest of the group and just have group members get “Every Single Man’s Battle.” I think “Every Man’s Battle” was information overload for single men. Thank you for your comment!

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